He sees his older siblings having more freedom and more superiority. People also have a self-ideal, which is a belief about how one should be. People may advance social interest without necessarily being altruistic, just as many altruistic people may act in a way that does not advance social interest.
First, he would engage the child in a friendly, encouraging conver sation. And yet he always insisted that he was not a disciple; he had never been psychoanalyzed by Freud nor attended his lectures.
The great issue in neu rotic illness, he maintained, was not what had happened in the past to cause it, but where it was heading—what particular goal the patient was achieving with his symp toms. He also emphasized conscious rather than unconscious motivation, since he believed that the three fundamental social tasks are explicitly known and pursued.
He had served for several years as a physician and psychia trist with the Austrian Army. It is a form of self-centeredness and is self-defeating. There were few other Jewish children in the area where he grew up, and his accent and general outlook re mained more Viennese than Jewish.
This belief leaves us with feeling incredibly less important and deserving than others, helpless, hopeless, and unmotivated to strive for the superiority that would make us complete.
It's something he has failed to learn sufficiently during his development; he's held on so anxiously to his self protective devices. Serving this urge, the child quite generally uses a schema in order to act and find his way Unable to meet his or her needs through direct, empowering action not having the confidence to initiate suchthe individual often grows up to be passive-aggressive and manipulative, relying unduly on the affirmation of others to carry them along.